About Me

Hello, my name is Sharel Siarkiewicz.

This is the first blog I’ve written so please be patient with me!

My blog: “ I can do it! No you can’t” is both a look inward and outward at all the barriers we face when we set a goal or dare to dream of anything other than what we currently are experiencing.   I feel my life has been a rollercoaster of this scenerio playing over and over.

I’m a separated single mom of 2 nearly grown boys and caregiver to my disabled older brother.

At age 9 I desperately wanted a horse and the dream grew to competing at an olympic level.  I spent the next 20 years chasing that dream.  But, you know, “no you can’t do that!”  well…that was probably true.

I also had a dream to be a wife and full time mother but this dream had to be adjusted to adapt to needs of the family.  –  strongly discouraged by our current modern woman’s push for their rights for equality.  Please don’t get me wrong, I have benefited a great deal from having more rights than my mother did and am grateful to the years she and Uma spent raising awareness to this issue.   I am not here to talk about women’s rights.  I’ll leave that to another platform.   But once again: “no you can’t do that”  So I was/am a working mom.

At age 22 I began my post-secondary education into a bachelor of arts but soon found I wasn’t happy with my desire to be a teacher (also influenced by “you can’t do that!  you will hate it!” )  I really don’t know how that dream might have come out.

So I changed directions and pursued massage therapy…..goodness…I really picked a controversial profession of that time.  I was very uncomfortable telling those asking what I was going to college for..( Here in BC, Canada it was 2 years of college with medical training plus a year of college upgrades prior to starting)    Once again I was told: “no you can’t do that” You’re too shy, you have to be able to talk to people.  ” yes I can! ”   I ignored the advice and found a very rewarding career as a result.

I started saving for retirement at age 23, working hard to build a life and home for a comfortable future…  But, starting that at an early age has it’s barriers as well when those closest to you do not share the same vision.   I lost my “ I can do it!” and watched what I built crumble.  I spent my life telling myself: “I can do it!”   All the way to bankruptcy.  But that’s a complicated story.  Throughout it all, I did get back to do it and still am.  Perhaps some of that credit goes to my piano teacher and her little sign on top of her piano: “if at first you don’t succeed, try,try,try again.”

There’s always a solution if you look hard enough.  Even at the bleakest moments in our lives….they are there.  I hope my blog helps to encourage or assist anyone struggling to find their way…..YOU CAN DO IT!!!